Sometimes parents think that the only way to be heard is a scream. Learn how not to succumb to this temptation, and to make raising a child more pleasant and easy.
How often do children ask for something that they cannot: cake for Breakfast, bring a bathing suit on a cold day… And when they receive legitimate “no!”, they are falling off to leeward on the floor, screaming and all the kicking. This is enough to leave the state of moral equilibrium and to yell.
As it turns out that the request for the piece of cake in the morning makes mom or dad to scream and go wild? If you have never yelled at your child, in fact, statistically, you get 10% of parents. And the scream is followed by a sense of guilt, it remains an unpleasant aftertaste and a desire to find a more effective method of education.
Does the screaming child?
According to psychotherapist Alyson Schafer, author of books about the education of young children, on the child the cry of the parent also affects negatively. If this is your main way to influence the child’s behavior, you could instill in your child a sense of self-doubt, lack of trust and sense of security. The raised voice coming from mom or dad, activates emotional response “to defend or escape Continue reading
“And blade of grass and worthy of the great world in which he grows” — believes Rabindranath Tagore. Only the blade of grass and did not even think he is worthy and what is not, how to not think about it everything in nature – small and large. It does not measure yourself and growing yourself and growing, fulfilling its purpose. Probably self-esteem issues unique to humankind. Apparently, this is the fee for the mind, for the high ability to analyze, compare, draw subjective conclusions, to improve. Often to the detriment of the sense. The paradox in the pursuit of their significance, we lose their own importance. And this confusion begins in a person’s life very early, offensively early. Low self-esteem of a child is a topic for serious discussion and reflection, as well as a reason for hard work. Because all unresolved childhood issues do not disappear anywhere, they backpack, heavy or not, hanging on the shoulders of human life. Isn’t it better to remove this backpack as soon as possible?
Most interesting is that the children are never born with low self-esteem. They don’t assess myself, and just live, adapting to the world or trying to adapt the world to himself. To assess and compare start parents with a “good” submission standards Continue reading
In my opinion, a child lives in each and it is better to be friends.:))
The child in the shower. this is naivety? credulity? the illusion? immaturity?
And sure if that innocence is the child in the shower?
To do this, it would be nice to understand exactly who lives inside of us!?
On this account there is a kind of classification;
What inner child lives in you?
Recently in psychology is very often used this term – the inner child. And the question here is not about some people who have an “Inner child”, and all. Psychologists in different directions to Express in this striking solidarity. Only call this phenomenon differently.
So why is it that “Inner child” every human has? The answer is simple – everything we were kids! If not to far metaphor, the “Inner child” is the inner child experience that we maintain in your soul till the old age.
Some readers, critical may disagree with me. To say that they have already grown and no “Inner children”. I kind of agree with them, that they are really adults, but this does not contradict the fact that within them lives the children’s experience. Some people can understand and use in their lives, others do not. And there are people whose childhood experience is very sad – and they don’t want Continue reading
A family is a special social environment. There are rules and norms of behavior, there may be a hierarchy within the family, child finds their first role models, sees the first people’s reactions to their actions. Not having any social or personal experience, the child is unable to assess either their behavior or the existence of personal qualities of others. Nowadays more and more scientists, teachers, psychologists admit that all that is in the child – both good and bad – he takes from childhood. The child will grow, and formed his personality, moral values, moral standards will remain. They will be guided by an adult, going through the journey of life, sometimes making hard choices. The impressions received in childhood, sometimes further define the work of man, his way of life after the family transmits and cultural traditions, the experience of predecessors, which were developed over many years.
The family influence on the formation of a child is recognized by many educators, psychologists, psychotherapists, Psychoneurology. The problems of the family and family education interested people since ancient times. Continue reading
A very important factor that complicates the relationship between parents and children, the inability of parents in a calm and respectful to the child to Express their thoughts. Often adults are not able to calmly and clearly explain to the child what they want from him, i.e., to articulate their expectations. They endlessly criticize him, invite other people to inspire son or daughter what he / she need to be.
The ability to discuss the problem with the child is another important aspect of education art parent. “It is possible, if from early childhood to establish a dialogue and not a monologue, writes Metropolitan Anthony of Sourozh. — And if the child is reported to be only with their ears, and the parents only voice, then nothing happens. But if from early childhood parents showed interest: are you interested to me! Each of your thoughts are interesting to me, all of your experience and all movements of the mind and soul is interesting, I don’t understand. The trouble with parents is that they almost always put themselves in that position: I understand, but you don’t understand. But if parents would say (that’s just the truth): “I do not understand, you explain to me very much could be explained. Because children readily explain what they think, if not oidium that there oke Sadat and prove that they’re wrong.” Continue reading