Don’t be afraid to go to a psychologist or child psychiatrist, deal with him, which negatively affects your child, what is the real ground of his misfortunes. Maybe you have to listen to something not very flattering to your address; it may be that already requires special measures — children’s nervous system vulnerable, and reactions to trauma can be readily fixed. Be careful and attentive!
Be especially careful with is so loved by us by means of life’s hardships — irony.
A white lie or why children lie
Often the reason for consultation with a psychologist or therapist is the loss of trust in the relationship between parents and children. Parents complain: “the Child about what we are not telling, Julita and remained silent or simply lying. ”
From what the child is saved by a lie?
Why are we so afraid of child lie? So strive at all costs to eradicate this defect? When we first notice that the child deceives us? In that moment, when he is not obeyed us, or were outside the framework that we endorse the behavior.
To dissemble and tacking child has whenever these limits become too rigid and cramped.
In other words, the child is lying, when he wants to avoid punishment or censure, when Continue reading
A family is a special social environment. There are rules and norms of behavior, there may be a hierarchy within the family, child finds their first role models, sees the first people’s reactions to their actions. Not having any social or personal experience, the child is unable to assess either their behavior or the existence of personal qualities of others. Nowadays more and more scientists, teachers, psychologists admit that all that is in the child – both good and bad – he takes from childhood. The child will grow, and formed his personality, moral values, moral standards will remain. They will be guided by an adult, going through the journey of life, sometimes making hard choices. The impressions received in childhood, sometimes further define the work of man, his way of life after the family transmits and cultural traditions, the experience of predecessors, which were developed over many years.
The family influence on the formation of a child is recognized by many educators, psychologists, psychotherapists, Psychoneurology. The problems of the family and family education interested people since ancient times. Continue reading
A very important factor that complicates the relationship between parents and children, the inability of parents in a calm and respectful to the child to Express their thoughts. Often adults are not able to calmly and clearly explain to the child what they want from him, i.e., to articulate their expectations. They endlessly criticize him, invite other people to inspire son or daughter what he / she need to be.
The ability to discuss the problem with the child is another important aspect of education art parent. “It is possible, if from early childhood to establish a dialogue and not a monologue, writes Metropolitan Anthony of Sourozh. — And if the child is reported to be only with their ears, and the parents only voice, then nothing happens. But if from early childhood parents showed interest: are you interested to me! Each of your thoughts are interesting to me, all of your experience and all movements of the mind and soul is interesting, I don’t understand. The trouble with parents is that they almost always put themselves in that position: I understand, but you don’t understand. But if parents would say (that’s just the truth): “I do not understand, you explain to me very much could be explained. Because children readily explain what they think, if not oidium that there oke Sadat and prove that they’re wrong.” Continue reading