Couples where the woman is older than her husband for ten, twenty, even thirty years, are now not uncommon. «He was only twenty six and she was already over forty. He is still quite young, recently received the second higher education, does not work. It — Mature woman was already married, one child — complains to the mother of 26 – year-old boy. — she has it all — a business of their own apartment. Now she wants to take my son! Says he will live with her like Christ in his bosom. But what is their future? Neither happiness nor children!».
Couples where the wife is older than her husband more than ten years, are now not uncommon. Increasingly, one can observe the following: here you go near a woman and a man — whether the mother and son, or just acquaintances? Come closer — but no, love! Go hand in hand, eyes glowing with love…
Someone such pairs is called ironic smile, someone — sympathy, someone looks after: «Quite mad!», «Nothing good will!», «they Have it for long!». And they did it. She was born just a little earlier, but it later…
According to statistics, official marriages, in which young men choose a life partner senior yourself Continue reading
Sometimes parents think that the only way to be heard is a scream. Learn how not to succumb to this temptation, and to make raising a child more pleasant and easy.
How often do children ask for something that they cannot: cake for Breakfast, bring a bathing suit on a cold day… And when they receive legitimate “no!”, they are falling off to leeward on the floor, screaming and all the kicking. This is enough to leave the state of moral equilibrium and to yell.
As it turns out that the request for the piece of cake in the morning makes mom or dad to scream and go wild? If you have never yelled at your child, in fact, statistically, you get 10% of parents. And the scream is followed by a sense of guilt, it remains an unpleasant aftertaste and a desire to find a more effective method of education.
Does the screaming child?
According to psychotherapist Alyson Schafer, author of books about the education of young children, on the child the cry of the parent also affects negatively. If this is your main way to influence the child’s behavior, you could instill in your child a sense of self-doubt, lack of trust and sense of security. The raised voice coming from mom or dad, activates emotional response “to defend or escape Continue reading
A very important factor that complicates the relationship between parents and children, the inability of parents in a calm and respectful to the child to Express their thoughts. Often adults are not able to calmly and clearly explain to the child what they want from him, i.e., to articulate their expectations. They endlessly criticize him, invite other people to inspire son or daughter what he / she need to be.
The ability to discuss the problem with the child is another important aspect of education art parent. “It is possible, if from early childhood to establish a dialogue and not a monologue, writes Metropolitan Anthony of Sourozh. — And if the child is reported to be only with their ears, and the parents only voice, then nothing happens. But if from early childhood parents showed interest: are you interested to me! Each of your thoughts are interesting to me, all of your experience and all movements of the mind and soul is interesting, I don’t understand. The trouble with parents is that they almost always put themselves in that position: I understand, but you don’t understand. But if parents would say (that’s just the truth): “I do not understand, you explain to me very much could be explained. Because children readily explain what they think, if not oidium that there oke Sadat and prove that they’re wrong.” Continue reading