Don’t be afraid to go to a psychologist or child psychiatrist, deal with him, which negatively affects your child, what is the real ground of his misfortunes. Maybe you have to listen to something not very flattering to your address; it may be that already requires special measures — children’s nervous system vulnerable, and reactions to trauma can be readily fixed. Be careful and attentive!
Be especially careful with is so loved by us by means of life’s hardships — irony.
A white lie or why children lie
Often the reason for consultation with a psychologist or therapist is the loss of trust in the relationship between parents and children. Parents complain: “the Child about what we are not telling, Julita and remained silent or simply lying. ”
From what the child is saved by a lie?
Why are we so afraid of child lie? So strive at all costs to eradicate this defect? When we first notice that the child deceives us? In that moment, when he is not obeyed us, or were outside the framework that we endorse the behavior.
To dissemble and tacking child has whenever these limits become too rigid and cramped.
In other words, the child is lying, when he wants to avoid punishment or censure, when Continue reading
Couples where the woman is older than her husband for ten, twenty, even thirty years, are now not uncommon. «He was only twenty six and she was already over forty. He is still quite young, recently received the second higher education, does not work. It — Mature woman was already married, one child — complains to the mother of 26 – year-old boy. — she has it all — a business of their own apartment. Now she wants to take my son! Says he will live with her like Christ in his bosom. But what is their future? Neither happiness nor children!».
Couples where the wife is older than her husband more than ten years, are now not uncommon. Increasingly, one can observe the following: here you go near a woman and a man — whether the mother and son, or just acquaintances? Come closer — but no, love! Go hand in hand, eyes glowing with love…
Someone such pairs is called ironic smile, someone — sympathy, someone looks after: «Quite mad!», «Nothing good will!», «they Have it for long!». And they did it. She was born just a little earlier, but it later…
According to statistics, official marriages, in which young men choose a life partner senior yourself Continue reading
A very important factor that complicates the relationship between parents and children, the inability of parents in a calm and respectful to the child to Express their thoughts. Often adults are not able to calmly and clearly explain to the child what they want from him, i.e., to articulate their expectations. They endlessly criticize him, invite other people to inspire son or daughter what he / she need to be.
The ability to discuss the problem with the child is another important aspect of education art parent. “It is possible, if from early childhood to establish a dialogue and not a monologue, writes Metropolitan Anthony of Sourozh. — And if the child is reported to be only with their ears, and the parents only voice, then nothing happens. But if from early childhood parents showed interest: are you interested to me! Each of your thoughts are interesting to me, all of your experience and all movements of the mind and soul is interesting, I don’t understand. The trouble with parents is that they almost always put themselves in that position: I understand, but you don’t understand. But if parents would say (that’s just the truth): “I do not understand, you explain to me very much could be explained. Because children readily explain what they think, if not oidium that there oke Sadat and prove that they’re wrong.” Continue reading