Raising a child is a complicated matter. You are convinced of all young parents who dreamed of an obedient child. Kids don’t listen, yells, runs away. What to do? How to raise a child properly? What is the secret of raising a child without punishment – happy little man?
How parents not to sacrifice your life and not to give up their own interests? How to raise the child on his feet, not at the expense of yourself and your life plans? How to educate and not to spoil? Where is the boundary between parental love and acquiescence, connivance? As no punishment to get the son or daughter of obedience? These nuances of raising a child in childhood, the rules of communication with preschool children and school children we now discuss.
The secrets of proper upbringing of children by parents without punishment and scream
1. Install leadership
In the relationship between mother and child should not be ambiguity. Clearly the leader in the relationship with the child should be the mother . and the child – slave and reaching for his mother – and not Vice versa!
If the vast majority of cases, the baby is 3-4 years impose their desires parents, he is spoilt . And before it’s too late, parents should try to correct Continue reading
Don’t be afraid to go to a psychologist or child psychiatrist, deal with him, which negatively affects your child, what is the real ground of his misfortunes. Maybe you have to listen to something not very flattering to your address; it may be that already requires special measures — children’s nervous system vulnerable, and reactions to trauma can be readily fixed. Be careful and attentive!
Be especially careful with is so loved by us by means of life’s hardships — irony.
A white lie or why children lie
Often the reason for consultation with a psychologist or therapist is the loss of trust in the relationship between parents and children. Parents complain: “the Child about what we are not telling, Julita and remained silent or simply lying. ”
From what the child is saved by a lie?
Why are we so afraid of child lie? So strive at all costs to eradicate this defect? When we first notice that the child deceives us? In that moment, when he is not obeyed us, or were outside the framework that we endorse the behavior.
To dissemble and tacking child has whenever these limits become too rigid and cramped.
In other words, the child is lying, when he wants to avoid punishment or censure, when Continue reading
All the time getting their hands in your mouth, chew collar blouse, mommy’s hair is wound on the handle…so small, and has already acquired habits which are useful and good will not name…
What this habit? To understand how it operates the mechanism, imagine this situation. You like to wear clothes with pockets and periodically to keep them in hand. Try to wear clothes without pockets. You will notice that during a certain period of time your hand will automatically reach for my pockets more than once. It was the habit! Definitely not crowned with success, your attempts will become more and more rare and will gradually disappear. But it will take time.
“Foundation” bad habits
The “Foundation” for the origin of habits and the development of stereotype behavior in kids actions become quite harmless. Typically, the first “germs” cause no alarm among parents and does not portend problems in the future.
For example, the baby is 4-5 months aggressively pulls the handle in his mouth, Continue reading