Don’t be afraid to go to a psychologist or child psychiatrist, deal with him, which negatively affects your child, what is the real ground of his misfortunes. Maybe you have to listen to something not very flattering to your address; it may be that already requires special measures — children’s nervous system vulnerable, and reactions to trauma can be readily fixed. Be careful and attentive!
Be especially careful with is so loved by us by means of life’s hardships — irony.
A white lie or why children lie
Often the reason for consultation with a psychologist or therapist is the loss of trust in the relationship between parents and children. Parents complain: “the Child about what we are not telling, Julita and remained silent or simply lying. ”
From what the child is saved by a lie?
Why are we so afraid of child lie? So strive at all costs to eradicate this defect? When we first notice that the child deceives us? In that moment, when he is not obeyed us, or were outside the framework that we endorse the behavior.
To dissemble and tacking child has whenever these limits become too rigid and cramped.
In other words, the child is lying, when he wants to avoid punishment or censure, when Continue reading
All the time getting their hands in your mouth, chew collar blouse, mommy’s hair is wound on the handle…so small, and has already acquired habits which are useful and good will not name…
What this habit? To understand how it operates the mechanism, imagine this situation. You like to wear clothes with pockets and periodically to keep them in hand. Try to wear clothes without pockets. You will notice that during a certain period of time your hand will automatically reach for my pockets more than once. It was the habit! Definitely not crowned with success, your attempts will become more and more rare and will gradually disappear. But it will take time.
“Foundation” bad habits
The “Foundation” for the origin of habits and the development of stereotype behavior in kids actions become quite harmless. Typically, the first “germs” cause no alarm among parents and does not portend problems in the future.
For example, the baby is 4-5 months aggressively pulls the handle in his mouth, Continue reading
Sometimes parents think that the only way to be heard is a scream. Learn how not to succumb to this temptation, and to make raising a child more pleasant and easy.
How often do children ask for something that they cannot: cake for Breakfast, bring a bathing suit on a cold day… And when they receive legitimate “no!”, they are falling off to leeward on the floor, screaming and all the kicking. This is enough to leave the state of moral equilibrium and to yell.
As it turns out that the request for the piece of cake in the morning makes mom or dad to scream and go wild? If you have never yelled at your child, in fact, statistically, you get 10% of parents. And the scream is followed by a sense of guilt, it remains an unpleasant aftertaste and a desire to find a more effective method of education.
Does the screaming child?
According to psychotherapist Alyson Schafer, author of books about the education of young children, on the child the cry of the parent also affects negatively. If this is your main way to influence the child’s behavior, you could instill in your child a sense of self-doubt, lack of trust and sense of security. The raised voice coming from mom or dad, activates emotional response “to defend or escape Continue reading