Raising a child is a complicated matter. You are convinced of all young parents who dreamed of an obedient child. Kids don’t listen, yells, runs away. What to do? How to raise a child properly? What is the secret of raising a child without punishment – happy little man?
How parents not to sacrifice your life and not to give up their own interests? How to raise the child on his feet, not at the expense of yourself and your life plans? How to educate and not to spoil? Where is the boundary between parental love and acquiescence, connivance? As no punishment to get the son or daughter of obedience? These nuances of raising a child in childhood, the rules of communication with preschool children and school children we now discuss.
The secrets of proper upbringing of children by parents without punishment and scream
1. Install leadership
In the relationship between mother and child should not be ambiguity. Clearly the leader in the relationship with the child should be the mother . and the child – slave and reaching for his mother – and not Vice versa!
If the vast majority of cases, the baby is 3-4 years impose their desires parents, he is spoilt . And before it’s too late, parents should try to correct Continue reading
Don’t be afraid to go to a psychologist or child psychiatrist, deal with him, which negatively affects your child, what is the real ground of his misfortunes. Maybe you have to listen to something not very flattering to your address; it may be that already requires special measures — children’s nervous system vulnerable, and reactions to trauma can be readily fixed. Be careful and attentive!
Be especially careful with is so loved by us by means of life’s hardships — irony.
A white lie or why children lie
Often the reason for consultation with a psychologist or therapist is the loss of trust in the relationship between parents and children. Parents complain: “the Child about what we are not telling, Julita and remained silent or simply lying. ”
From what the child is saved by a lie?
Why are we so afraid of child lie? So strive at all costs to eradicate this defect? When we first notice that the child deceives us? In that moment, when he is not obeyed us, or were outside the framework that we endorse the behavior.
To dissemble and tacking child has whenever these limits become too rigid and cramped.
In other words, the child is lying, when he wants to avoid punishment or censure, when Continue reading
How to raise a child independent personality, extraordinary, purposeful and holistic just? Education of child labour continuous and very complex. Having two sons eight and ten years old, I regularly look for different information on this topic.
All parents and educators know that a child learn best from someone else’s example. First and foremost, such as the parents themselves. That is, if the father says to the son: “My hands before eating”, and he comes home from work, don’t do this, no matter how much the baby is not scolded, he will always have a subconscious desire to do as a father. There is a conflict in the education – mismatch between requested and actual. And this disparity will lead to misunderstanding and resistance.
Of course, each family has their own ideas about parenting. But interesting to see what practices exist in education. Recently read the nine commandments of raising a child from the “Home encyclopedia”. It’s pretty interesting thoughts, I suggest you to pay attention to them.
9 commandments of raising a child. A note to parents
1. Don’t expect your child to be like you. Or – as you want. Education should help him not become you, and themselves.
2. Do not ask the child to pay for everything you do for him: you gave him life, how can he repay you? He will give life to another, one – third: this is an irreversible law of gratitude.
3. In the process of education don’t take it out on the child their grievances to old age is not bitter bread, because what you sow, so shall ascend. Continue reading