We educate our children and want them to grow up and such-that and such-that they didn’t make our mistakes, so he was happy. If you look in the dictionary, we see that « Education — it is a purposeful shaping of personality in order to prepare them to participate in public and cultural life in accordance with socio-cultural normative models» . In life education is usually called the impact that we had on the child, and its results.
Actually, even if our influence will be neither deliberate nor conscious, a person from our baby will still be formed. He will grow up like us. «the Child learns what he sees in his home». This law repeal will not be so, if we desire that our child didn’t inherit from us some of the features, you just need to get rid of them ourselves.
But now we will talk about purposeful and conscious education and the various approaches to it . After our success on the path of education is directly dependent on the approach, and accordingly, a method in raising children, we are choosing. And the approach depends on what the goals and objectives of education we set ourselves.
Why can’t something be explained to the child? Why he doesn’t listen and doesn’t listen? Continue reading
Sometimes parents think that the only way to be heard is a scream. Learn how not to succumb to this temptation, and to make raising a child more pleasant and easy.
How often do children ask for something that they cannot: cake for Breakfast, bring a bathing suit on a cold day… And when they receive legitimate “no!”, they are falling off to leeward on the floor, screaming and all the kicking. This is enough to leave the state of moral equilibrium and to yell.
As it turns out that the request for the piece of cake in the morning makes mom or dad to scream and go wild? If you have never yelled at your child, in fact, statistically, you get 10% of parents. And the scream is followed by a sense of guilt, it remains an unpleasant aftertaste and a desire to find a more effective method of education.
Does the screaming child?
According to psychotherapist Alyson Schafer, author of books about the education of young children, on the child the cry of the parent also affects negatively. If this is your main way to influence the child’s behavior, you could instill in your child a sense of self-doubt, lack of trust and sense of security. The raised voice coming from mom or dad, activates emotional response “to defend or escape Continue reading
A very important factor that complicates the relationship between parents and children, the inability of parents in a calm and respectful to the child to Express their thoughts. Often adults are not able to calmly and clearly explain to the child what they want from him, i.e., to articulate their expectations. They endlessly criticize him, invite other people to inspire son or daughter what he / she need to be.
The ability to discuss the problem with the child is another important aspect of education art parent. “It is possible, if from early childhood to establish a dialogue and not a monologue, writes Metropolitan Anthony of Sourozh. — And if the child is reported to be only with their ears, and the parents only voice, then nothing happens. But if from early childhood parents showed interest: are you interested to me! Each of your thoughts are interesting to me, all of your experience and all movements of the mind and soul is interesting, I don’t understand. The trouble with parents is that they almost always put themselves in that position: I understand, but you don’t understand. But if parents would say (that’s just the truth): “I do not understand, you explain to me very much could be explained. Because children readily explain what they think, if not oidium that there oke Sadat and prove that they’re wrong.” Continue reading