Raising a child is a complicated matter. You are convinced of all young parents who dreamed of an obedient child. Kids don’t listen, yells, runs away. What to do? How to raise a child properly? What is the secret of raising a child without punishment – happy little man?
How parents not to sacrifice your life and not to give up their own interests? How to raise the child on his feet, not at the expense of yourself and your life plans? How to educate and not to spoil? Where is the boundary between parental love and acquiescence, connivance? As no punishment to get the son or daughter of obedience? These nuances of raising a child in childhood, the rules of communication with preschool children and school children we now discuss.
The secrets of proper upbringing of children by parents without punishment and scream
1. Install leadership
In the relationship between mother and child should not be ambiguity. Clearly the leader in the relationship with the child should be the mother . and the child – slave and reaching for his mother – and not Vice versa!
If the vast majority of cases, the baby is 3-4 years impose their desires parents, he is spoilt . And before it’s too late, parents should try to correct Continue reading
Sometimes parents think that the only way to be heard is a scream. Learn how not to succumb to this temptation, and to make raising a child more pleasant and easy.
How often do children ask for something that they cannot: cake for Breakfast, bring a bathing suit on a cold day… And when they receive legitimate “no!”, they are falling off to leeward on the floor, screaming and all the kicking. This is enough to leave the state of moral equilibrium and to yell.
As it turns out that the request for the piece of cake in the morning makes mom or dad to scream and go wild? If you have never yelled at your child, in fact, statistically, you get 10% of parents. And the scream is followed by a sense of guilt, it remains an unpleasant aftertaste and a desire to find a more effective method of education.
Does the screaming child?
According to psychotherapist Alyson Schafer, author of books about the education of young children, on the child the cry of the parent also affects negatively. If this is your main way to influence the child’s behavior, you could instill in your child a sense of self-doubt, lack of trust and sense of security. The raised voice coming from mom or dad, activates emotional response “to defend or escape Continue reading
A very important factor that complicates the relationship between parents and children, the inability of parents in a calm and respectful to the child to Express their thoughts. Often adults are not able to calmly and clearly explain to the child what they want from him, i.e., to articulate their expectations. They endlessly criticize him, invite other people to inspire son or daughter what he / she need to be.
The ability to discuss the problem with the child is another important aspect of education art parent. “It is possible, if from early childhood to establish a dialogue and not a monologue, writes Metropolitan Anthony of Sourozh. — And if the child is reported to be only with their ears, and the parents only voice, then nothing happens. But if from early childhood parents showed interest: are you interested to me! Each of your thoughts are interesting to me, all of your experience and all movements of the mind and soul is interesting, I don’t understand. The trouble with parents is that they almost always put themselves in that position: I understand, but you don’t understand. But if parents would say (that’s just the truth): “I do not understand, you explain to me very much could be explained. Because children readily explain what they think, if not oidium that there oke Sadat and prove that they’re wrong.” Continue reading